When the Dyson report was released last year – which found that Diana, Princess of Wales, had been lured into the 1995 Panorama interview by “fraudulent behaviour” – her son, Prince William, spoke about how that whole experience was “contributed significantly to her anxiety, paranoia and isolation that I remember from those past few years with her.” It painted a sad and sad picture, not only of what Diana went through, but of her sons as well.
Prince William was 13 when his mother gave this interview. She had reportedly assured him before the show that there was nothing to worry about, but he was furious and embarrassed when she saw it at boarding school as she opened up about Charles Hewitt and her own infidelity.
This week, 25 years after Diana’s death in a car crash in Paris, William is a grown man, father of three children and a key player in royal decisions such as the removal of his uncle, Prince Andrew, from the front line.
William is now 40, four years older than his mother when she died and apparently not only older but also more mature. There is perhaps a consistency in the son that the mother, who was engaged to the heir apparent when she was just 19, could never match.
While both William and his brother Harry have spoken out about the devastating effects of their sudden loss, there is less to say about its impact on them in life. Yes, she gave them the ample and open affection that her father’s family was known to find difficult, but her sadness and heartache must have had an impact too. Perhaps this was reflected most clearly in the choice of the princes’ wives.
While one drew on the trauma of his mother’s life and death to create calm around himself, the other seems fueled to stoke the flames of controversy, with his wife seemingly similarly motivated.
The start of the now-massive rift between William and Harry, as has often been reported, began when the older sibling advised the younger to take it easy with his new girlfriend Meghan Markle.
Harry apparently took this as criticism of Meghan and, as seems to have been his habit ever since, took the hump.
Not foolishly, William pounced on Kate Middleton, whom he first met as a student at St Andrews in the early 2000s. According to some accounts, she was the least pushy of the young women around him, which may have been part of her attraction. The romance started quietly, and he ended it for a while in 2007, partly out of fear of the public fever for a royal wedding that had too quickly propelled his mother into an unhappy marriage.
Before their marriage in 2011, much of the attention given to Kate Middleton was fairly perceptive, centered on her mother’s career as a flight attendant and apparent social ambitions for her daughters. Over time, however, William’s wife has earned respect and affection, not just for her warmth and ready laugh, but for making the second in line to the throne a happy man.
He watched his mother in agony. He tried to help her. He couldn’t, but William’s takeaway is to take a very different path. He has a lot of his mother’s warmth, as does Kate, but it’s an old-school strain that’s not so busy racking up popularity points or chasing likes. Diana’s legacy to him was perhaps to warn him about the drama, while Harry – well, this drama doesn’t seem to have an end.
Just last week, on the first installment of Archetypes with Meghanthe long-awaited podcast for Spotify, she told her guest and close friend Serena Williams about when a fire broke out in her baby’s bedroom during her first royal tour in South Africa.
Baby Archie wasn’t in the room at the time, by the way, but Meghan’s point was the heartless way she and Harry were supposed to carry on to their next appointment afterwards. Tiny violins have been removed from their cases around the world.
Harry had to poke his head into Meghan’s podcast chat to say hello, like one of those celebrity cameos Neighbors. He sounded lively, but lively isn’t exactly the brand that Harry has cultivated.
He left top royalty for happiness and certainly he seems to love his wife and their two young children, but Harry’s main concern is rehashing his first family unhappiness and endlessly seeking healing in his charisma Find.
So far, what you might call his wife’s American “if you feel it, say it” approach has landed them podcast, memoir and Netflix deals, but how long can that last and where will Harry be then?
His mother might have told him if she had survived the hardship and drama of her time with the Windsors. Instead, Diana died at the height of world interest in the wrongs done to her by her in-laws. Harry, who was just 12 when he lost her, may have found drama to be his comfort zone in her absence.
said Diana in it panorama Interview that she “wouldn’t walk quietly,” but in two years she was gone. She was no longer an active problem for the Windsors, but her impact lives on, not least in their sons – and their spouses.
https://www.independent.ie/opinion/comment/princess-dianas-legacy-lives-on-in-her-sons-and-their-choice-of-wives-41941748.html Princess Diana’s legacy lives on in her sons and the choice of her wives