Jackson Thomas Blaisdell knew he wanted to marry Radha Jain two months after they started dating in late 2015. But all plans for a wedding became less certain when the couple split about five years later .
“It was a very amicable breakup,” Ms. Jain said of their decision to split in August 2020. “We’ve been dating since we were 19. Do we really know who we are if we don’t know ourselves apart?”
The two first met in an economics class at Stanford University, where Mr. Blaisdell, 26, is 25 years older than Ms. Jain. After exchanging phone numbers at a party, they quickly started dating.
“We got to work on it right away,” Mr. Blaisdell said.
In their spare time, Mr. Blaisdell, who grew up nearby in Los Altos, California, and Ms. Jain, who grew up in London, spent most of the next few years camping and hiking in national parks. family of California. They also frequent Koma Sushi in Palo Alto, California, a restaurant near the campus where they had their first date in November 2015.
After graduating in the spring of 2018, Mr. Blaisdell began working at investment firms, most recently Capria in Seattle, where he was on a scholarship. His job requires him to work from many parts of the world – including South Africa, Kenya and France – for months at a time.
Although living in different countries isn’t ideal, the couple have found a way to connect despite the distance between them. Ms. Jain visited Mr. Blaisdell while he was working in France, and they traveled together in Italy and Israel. “It was really special when we met,” Ms. Jain said.
Upon graduating in the spring of 2019, Ms. Jain moved to New York, where she worked as an engineer at Palantir, a software company. In February 2020, Mr. Blaisdell, who completed her PhD and was recently accepted into Harvard Law School, joined her there. He was with Miss Jain when epidemic attacked, and when the city was closed, the couple decided to leave and stay with their parents in Los Altos.
Months later, in August 2020, they broke up.
Ms. Jain moved back to New York and Mr. Blaisdell to Cambridge, Mass., where he was studying for a law degree at Harvard. For the next year, they did not speak. But Mr Blaisdell found he couldn’t stop thinking about Ms Jain, and in August 2021 he sent her a video message while in Armenia for a summer internship.
Ms Jain said: ‘We just got this video, it’s like a fever dream. “Me and my friends, all four of us were watching over the phone, watching online.”
Miss Jain texted Mr Blaisdell the next day to tell him she missed him too, and they planned to have Mrs Jain visit Mr Blaisdell for about a week when he returned to Cambridge later that month.
Describing the moment he first met Ms Jain after they split, Blaisdell said: “It was really just coming home.”
“At that point, I knew immediately that we should get married,” he added. “Because I know I never want to be away from her again.”
Miss Jain agrees.
“It’s because of the time apart, I think, that’s what makes us so confident that this is what we want for the rest of our lives,” she said.
The two became engaged a few months later, in December 2021, while skiing near Lake Tahoe in California. Mr. Blaisdell proposed on New Year’s Eve, when fireworks shot up above them.
The couple were married on January 29 at L’Appart, a restaurant in Manhattan, in the presence of 15 vaccinated guests. Monica Castro, a pastor of CityLight Church in Queens, made the official ceremony.
“What I personally love most about Radha is her extraordinary energy, enthusiasm and curiosity about anything and everything she sees and does,” said Mr. Blaisdell. “She’s just the flaming ball of loving life.”
About the groom, Ms. Jain said, “I could talk to him for the rest of my life, and I will.” She added, “I’ve never met anyone with such deep gratitude for humans.”
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