Lucy Livesey, 33, was 20 weeks pregnant when she was taken to a private room at St Mary’s Hospital in Manchester and told her baby Ellie’s heart condition might be too severe
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An expectant mother underwent routine physicals and found her baby’s heart condition was so severe that she would not survive.
Lucy Livesey was 20 weeks pregnant when she was taken to a private room at St Mary’s Hospital in Manchester in 2017.
The shocked mother-to-be was immediately reminded of the time in 2004 when she was told her twin brother had died, the reports Manchester evening news.
Their unborn daughter, Ellie, had a heart problem and medics weren’t sure if she had a chance of life.
After multiple tests and an excruciating three-week wait, Lucy and her partner Rick were told their baby’s heart was not forming properly and her condition was too serious.
At 24 weeks, Lucy went into labor and gave birth to her child.
“Bringing your child into the world when you know it’s not going to live is really screwed up,” said the 33-year-old.
“You’re just in absolute shock to be told this news and you’re scared of what’s going to happen next.
“You are a first-time mom and have never given birth to a baby.
“You then also try to see into the future because of all the things that you don’t have or won’t have.
“It’s a whole mix of emotions – you are in this moment of a devastating time but your mind is trying to resolve a situation.
“It was disbelief at the time and a lot of guilt because I thought I had done something wrong; you start to think if you could have eaten better or done something differently.”
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Lucy and Rick had already started baby shopping before they got the news.
Before delivery, the couple spent time packing the tiny pink outfits and blankets into a box.
On the way to the hospital, Lucy remembers clutching her stomach and not wanting to let her baby go.
The couple opted for hypno-birth, a pain management method that can be used during labor and involves a mix of visualization, relaxation and deep breathing techniques.
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The pair were then able to spend some quality time with Ellie.
In the days after the birth, Lucy’s pregnancy symptoms continued, as if her body was longing for a baby it couldn’t find.
“When we found out it was a girl, it was really exciting,” she said.
“We weren’t crazy, but we had little outfits and blankets and stuff.
“You’re already planning a lot in your head – you’re even planning wedding dress shopping with her, you’re going so far into the future.
“I have two boys now and they are beautiful boys but we decided at that point it could be for us.
“Then there’s this realization that there’ll never be another girl like Ellie in our lives.
“You have all the symptoms like bleeding and feeling sore.
“I was still getting push notifications via email from all the baby stuff I signed up for.
“After the delivery we spent some time with Ellie.
“I felt connected to her and we have some pictures and photographs and that made it really special.
“From birth I felt so empowered. I was really proud of what we both accomplished – even though it was sad, we made a life,” she added.
Lucy took sick leave from work before eventually founding the wellness business Relax With Lucy & Co, a service offering baby loss wellbeing and mental health support.
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/mum-goes-routine-scan-told-27107618 The mother-to-be undergoes routine check-ups and told her the baby's heart condition is too severe to survive