It’s been eight years since Gwyneth Paltrow announced her split from husband Chris Martin as a “conscious uncoupling”. The phrase wasn’t Paltrow’s invention, but it’s stuck in her mind ever since as a sort of summary of smug importance and a rose-tinted attitude toward breakup.
In fact, no one really believed it was possible to turn a marriage failure on a positive note; The couple was perceived as feigned friendliness.
Eight years later, you might think of “conscious decoupling” as the ultimate effort in faking it until you make it. Paltrow and Martin have four dinners with their new partners, vacation with their teenage children, and celebrate important occasions as a family. It may all remain smug and irritating, but who can ever know the truth about what makes a marriage work? No one on the outside can ever know the truth about it. In fact, that sometimes applies to those in marriage as well.
The truth of what happened six years ago on a private jet carrying then-married Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie may only be known to them and their six children, who were also on board. On the other hand, there can be multiple truths since, in the words of the late Queen Elizabeth, “Memories vary”.
That’s not to say Jolie is lying. That’s not to say he wasn’t acting as appallingly as she claims. It means we don’t know the truth, but it’s an event that won’t go away, even though the FBI declined to press charges in 2016 for lack of evidence, and a judge later granted Pitt 50-50 access to theirs Children despite Jolie’s position that he is unfit.
Last week, Jolie filed legal documents in the United States alleging that Pitt verbally and physically abused her and more than one of her children on that flight. The papers were obtained from a US publication, and Pitt has since issued statements through his attorney, notably saying that he would “respond in court” to this latest move.
The detail of what Jolie claims was first aired publicly late this summer when interviews were given after an argument or incident of violence occurred on the plane.
then Rolling Stone The magazine obtained the FBI records, which detailed Jolie’s account of a very intoxicated Pitt who “acted like he was going to attack” when one of the kids called him a “p***k.” Jolie attacked Pitt, allegedly pushing her backwards and injuring her back and arm.
Pitt is said to have doused her with beer, and inside the private jet there is said to have been $ 25,000 (25,670 euros) in wine damage. Court filings last week also included details that Pitt allegedly grabbed her by the head and “choked” one of the children.
It’s worth noting that Jolie’s papers were filed as part of an ongoing issue regarding their sale of their portion of their French chateau and vineyard together to a Russian oligarch, whom Pitt has described as a “hostile competitor.” The former couple had reportedly agreed that they would never sell their share of the property without the other’s consent, but it could be said that they both probably broke a lot of promises at this stage. Such is marriage. That’s how divorce is.
We cannot know the truth. However, the reality seems to be that this is a broken marriage of extremes. Sources close to Pitt last week claimed his relationship with the children was “limited and strained … because of.” [Jolie’s] Campaign of Alienation”.
He’s on one side and Jolie, who’s embraced motherhood with the same holistic approach she brought with her in her earlier stages of hell hunting and carrying vials of Billy Bob Thornton’s blood, is on the other side, surrounded by hers brood. As a family – and they are family despite their divorce – they couldn’t be further apart.
Pitt’s attorney claimed Jolie’s claims were part of a deliberate campaign, but it’s hard to reconcile a desire to tarnish her ex’s reputation with her clearly fierce love for her family. The kids no doubt have their own opinions about their father that we can’t know, but playing out the pain of the divorce publicly won’t do them any good.
It was also reported last week that, in the wake of their protracted divorce, Jolie once suggested that she and Pitt refrain from airing their dirty laundry in public.
Then she sold her share of the vineyard. He then accused her of doing so maliciously. Then she responded last week by reviving the 2016 flight that, as she puts it, led to her filing for divorce five days later.
Did everything go wrong? Or maybe it’s further back, maybe back to the Team Jolie/Team Aniston days.
Pitt’s attorney said the actor will answer all of his ex’s allegations in court.
“Brad has heard everything that’s his responsibility from day one – unlike the other side – but he won’t own anything he hasn’t done,” Anne Kiley said.
Oddly enough, six years later, it’s almost the opposite of “consciously decoupled.” Jolie and Pitt are separate, yet horribly connected, with the only undeniable truth being the agony for everyone involved.
https://www.independent.ie/opinion/comment/theres-conscious-uncoupling-and-theres-the-brad-and-angelina-way-42051326.html There’s conscious decoupling and there’s the Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie way