TV-loving Rochelle Humes has opened up about her father and says she can finally forgive him for not being a part of her childhood.
This Morning presenter Rochelle was young when her mother Roz Wiseman and father Mark Piper broke up. But she has no bad feelings for him.
And she says two things that helped her accept it – being a parent herself and becoming soulmates with two half-sisters she never knew.
She also revealed how her husband Marvin – JLS singer and fellow TV presenter – helped her heal by being such a wonderful father to their children Alaia-Mai, eight years old, Valentina, four years old, and Blake 18 months old.
Rochelle, 32, was raised in Barking, East London, by her mother Roz, a former paramedic. Speaking on a podcast, Rochelle said: “Just me and my mom. My father and mother separated when I was young, only missing one child.
“And then it really is. I contacted Dad for a short period of time but it was never anything solid. And then the contact completely stopped. “
Rochelle, who is best known for her girl band The Saturday, has great respect for her mother and the way she handles the fact that Mark isn’t in their lives.
To ease the pain, Roz told her: “Some fathers are not good at taking care of girls because it is easier for them to take care of boys.”
It was a story young Rochelle had been attached to for many years. But at the age of 17, she passed her driving test and became curious to follow her father. “You’ll always have that level of curiosity in life,” she said.
It was then that Rochelle learned that Mark had a son, Jake. She didn’t know he also had two daughters – Sophie and Lili Piper.
“He’s got a new setup and I’m not interested in that,” Rochelle said. Eleven years on, a chance meeting brings Rochelle and her sisters together.
She was introduced to Love Island star Kem Cetinay at a party and he has known Lili since her school days. Rochelle recalls: “He said to me ‘Look, this is really weird, I went to school with your sister’. Next thing, I saved her number in my phone.
“I arranged to meet them for dinner, all three of them, two sisters and a brother. I had the worst stomach ache. I was so nervous, I took Marv with me. I just felt really vulnerable about the whole thing.
“Gen is really crazy. Growing up, my family was like no other. I grew up in a white family. I was very conscious. I have my family on one side, my bad luck on the other, that I’m not with.
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“But me and my siblings are very similar. Style and everything. Now we talk every day. I can’t remember a time when they weren’t in my life now.
“It is truly a gift. I don’t keep feeling angry because Dad isn’t with me. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. My light is them”.
Rochelle is speaking on The Diary of a CEO, with Dragons’ Den star Steve Bartlett. And though she can forgive her father now, she doesn’t plan on getting to know him – nor does she resent her siblings for the upbringing they had.
She continued: “If you asked me when I was 18, I would say, ‘I will never forgive that man for not being by my side’. I know what I will get if I contact him.
“There’s nothing he can say that can change the fact that he didn’t come to watch my Christmas game and he didn’t put in that piece of the puzzle.
“But acceptance can be a beautiful and liberating thing and think, ‘I’m not fixated on something I can’t change. It was done and it is in the past’.
“I didn’t think, ‘They’ve lived a life with my dad. They get noticed’. Can’t hold back feelings of anger at the fact that he’s not by my side.
“If I had kept that up, I wouldn’t have met them for dinner. I won’t have the real key players in my corner now and the people I love.
“That comes with age. I don’t need a dad my age. Because I have my own family and I am secure. When I had my own child, I was strangely less curious about him.
“I see my husband as a father. And I know what it’s like to be a parent because I am a parent and loved, loved, and lived my life to the fullest for my children.
“For some people change after they have children and they want them to know their grandparents. But my biggest thing in life is protecting these little people. You can go easy on me. But how can I make them sit by the window and say, ‘Did Grandpa come pick you up’? I have that under control.
“I’m not against it, I would be open-minded, but it’s not what I’m looking for now.”
Rochelle’s joy over the men in her life was on display a few days ago when she posted pictures after a vacation in Dubai.
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Referring to Marvin, 36, and son Blake, she wrote: “I didn’t grow up with a single man in the house, so I really didn’t know it was possible to get this much happiness from two people. My boys, my world. ”
Rochelle credits Marvin for helping her heal and move on. “He was the best,” she said. He’s dedicated and patient and everything I wanted him to be.
“But when I talk about this, it’s a really weird thing. As a society, people would say ‘You’re so lucky, Marvin is a good dad’. I was like, ‘Yes, he is’.
“At the same time, there’s always a part of me that says ‘He’s doing what he should be doing’. People don’t say they’re lucky to have a good mother.
“People say you should be a good mother. You will be able to have a career. Be a hot girl for your friend. You should be a great mother. A lot of pressure is placed on women’s shoulders. I didn’t take anything from him. We really appreciate him in my home. He is a rock.
“But at the same time we live in this real world where you get clapped for being a great dad, but if you’re a working mom it’s like… ooh, she goes to work.. Will she not make nativity on time? “
On the subject of work, Rochelle said her favorite project is The Hit List, which she hosts with Marvin on BBC1.
She said, quite simply: “It couldn’t be more perfect for us… I enjoyed that ran to the end of time.”
https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/morning-star-rochelle-humes-forgives-26338644 This morning star Rochelle Humes forgave her father who left her when she was a baby