Illumination Murphy’s heartbroken friend held back tears today as she told a huge crowd at a ceremony in Dublin: “This shouldn’t have happened to her.”
More than 1,000 people attended the vigil outside Leinster House with hundreds of flowers and candles laid down as a tribute to Ashling and her family.
Grace Corrigan, a musician who has been Ashling’s friend for nearly 20 years, told the crowd that the 23-year-old teacher was “the nicest, kindest and most caring person you’ll ever meet”.
“Ashling Murphy, I don’t know where to start,” she said. Literally one of the nicest, kindest, most caring people you could ever meet in your life.
“Beautiful inside and out. I have known Ashling for almost 20 years at this point through Comhaltas. We grew up playing music together.
“I have so many fond memories of her sitting on the high stool eating a pack of King crisps and drinking Coke from a glass bottle just to wait until it was time for tin whistle class.”
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Brave Grace told the crowd that the two friends had played together at venues around the country from their teens to adulthood.
She said: “You would look at her during a lesson and she would wink a lot and have an even brighter smile on her face. Just very happy all the time. She lifts you up.
“She is the kind of person that if she asks how you are, she really cares about the answer and she will repeat it to you six months later. She is such a caring, caring person.”
On behalf of all the musicians, Grace offered her condolences to Aisling Ray’s devastated father, her mother Kathleen, her brother Cathal, her friends and her boyfriend Ryan Casey.
She said: “She was such an incredible beauty. This shouldn’t happen to her. They shouldn’t be going through that, Murphy isn’t.
“Just to conclude, Ashling, we absolutely love you and we will never forget you. You are an amazing person. ”
After her speech, Grace and several other musicians played a traditional Irish song for the crowd.
Jim McCallister from the Irish music association Comhaltas told the ceremony that Aisling started playing music when she was 7 years old.
The talented fiddle player will continue to play throughout Ireland and the UK on tours in Comhaltas in 2017 and 2018, while also teaching people music.
Jim McCallister said Aisling always stayed after lessons to help clean up the musical equipment and he asked the crowd to keep the Murphy family in their thoughts.
Ireland’s National Women’s Council director Orla O’Connor said many people attended Ashling’s memorial but also out of anger that another woman had her life taken.
“We were very angry,” she said. We are angry that we have taken another woman’s life, and we live in a society where male violence and the threat of male violence impact and influence the decisions we make. out daily.
“Ashling Murphy’s death must be a pivotal moment in ending violence against women.”
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Margaret Martin from the National Council of Women told the crowd that 243 women have been murdered by men in Ireland since 1996.
She called on men and women to challenge men on how they disrespect and mistreat women.
“We want to see men challenged to each other and to ourselves about how they disrespect and mistreat women,” she said.
“And about the silence of their colleagues and friends. So, when a sexist joke is told or a derogatory comment is made, you need to start challenging those little things because otherwise we are fostering a culture of endings. ends with very bleak things and very serious things. “
Activist Ailbhe Smyth said men’s violence against women should be an “absolute priority” in every way possible in Ireland.
The crowd at the vigil was so large that it blocked all roads outside Leinster House.
Nyasha Mhandu, who attended the vigil with Sylvan Benaksas, told the Irish Sun it was not fair for women to be on high alert all the time.
Struggling to hold back tears, Nyasha said: “It’s really, really sad that she couldn’t do something that anyone else could have done differently.
“You just feel like there’s nothing you can do. It’s not fair that women can’t do anything. Every time you leave the house, you must be on high alert.
“It feels really, really scary and really scary when that guy is still out there. Ireland largely feels safe but things like this happen all too often.”
Another mourner present at the ceremony, Aoife Ward, who attended with Fionn McCoole McCarthy said she was shocked by Ashling’s murder and felt “helpless.”
Independent Dublin councilor Tanya Doyle, a member of the Caucasian Women’s Council for Fingal County, told the Irish Sun that Ashling’s murder left her shocked and scared.
She said: “My daughter is the same age. During Covid, we will try to get outside every day and run or walk the dog.
“Going out in broad daylight and letting this happen in this day and age is very, very sad.”
https://www.thesun.ie/news/8208044/ashling-murphy-friend-tears-dublin-vigil-message-crowd/ This shouldn’t have happened, painful friend of more than 20 years Ashling Murphy told Dublin