‘Threesome with my boyfriend was fun, but now I’m falling in love with another guy’ – Coleen Nolan

A reader writes to Mirror’s aunt Coleen Nolan in agony after sleeping with her boyfriend’s friend, breaking their arrangement rules

To Coleen

My boyfriend and I have always been very open and test when it comes to sex, and over the past few months we’ve been three with one of his good friends.

Recently, however, I’ve been seeing his friend alone and we’ve been in bed together, which is breaking all the rules we set in the first place.

We’ve slept together a few times since and haven’t told my boyfriend, and I find myself becoming more and more attached to him and less to my boyfriend.

I think I might actually be in love.

I also feel very guilty for hiding this from my boyfriend.

Neither of us knew what to do, but we both agreed that we felt something deeper for each other and it wasn’t just about sex anymore.

Although my boyfriend is the one who suggested there are three people and bringing his friend in, I knew he would be devastated if we told him or he found out. I’m feeling confused and don’t know how to get out of this mess – any ideas?

What advice would you give? Have your voice in the comments

Coleen said

It’s always a risky area when you’re turning a sexual fantasy like this into reality.

There’s a lot of potential for jealousy and paranoia, and as you’ve discovered, becoming emotionally attached to someone who isn’t your partner.

I think you have to be honest with your boyfriend – you don’t have to tell him you’ve slept with his friend’s side – but you should admit that you’ve developed feelings for another guy outside of your relationship. sex. .

Then you have to decide how to move forward. You either decide that sex with another guy (including three) can never happen again and you do things right as a couple, or you end your relationship .

But don’t continue to sleep with another guy behind your boyfriend’s back.

I’m afraid this is the gamble you make when you start to involve other people in your relationship.

I think it would be a good idea to both take a break and think about what you want.

It’s hard to get any perspective when you’re still so engaged.