I know a lot of women who pay their own taxes, manage their own home, secure their mortgage, and in some cases manage a large team at work. They repealed for the 8th time, closed the gender pay gap and voted for marriage equality.
et mentioned dating them and it’s been almost 50 years since feminism has never happened.
“I’m sorry, I just wanted to be pampered a couple of times,” said one, defending her hardline rule about men paying on dates.
“I just want to feel a little bit small and elegant, you know?” another said, referring to her preference for a taller man.
Another friend swears that her top dating tactic is to “slowly let go of the madness,” as well as not being overly interested or desperate with men.
Add to that a myriad of other countervailing sentiments, from talk of being ‘on shelves’ and following ‘rules’ to the ticking of the biological clock, and things just don’t seem to be equal. so.
Dating app Bumble – the one that women have to go first if they want to conduct a conversation with someone – says that when it comes to dating, there’s officially something called the ‘romantic distance’. Research commissioned by Bumble found that, while 92pc of those in Ireland think equality is important in a relationship, a majority (82pc) say that when it comes to romantic relationships, there is different expectations and expected behaviors based on gender identity.
This study, conducted by YouGov, found that almost two-thirds of adults in Ireland (65pc) say it causes them to behave in ways less of who they are. Two-thirds of respondents said that men are expected to take the lead, more than half of respondents said that they expect men to earn more than women, and two-thirds of adults note that The man will be the one to enter the relationship or propose. to their partner.
You would think that the age-old rules and traditions surrounding these things might make things easier, but that’s not the case. How can they when everyone is playing completely obsolete roles? What do people expect when the interactions they have are less authentic?
The breadwinners, the bill-paying guys, and the ladies sitting docilely by the phone are mischief, the opposite of what the rest of our lives look like. any. How can we expect to have any kind of long-term, equal relationship when one of us is grossly simplifying, simply because we think the other sees what’s wrong? which ‘more beautiful’?
Do we intend to continue pretending in the long run? All that said, a lot of this feels horribly, embarrassingly familiar. More than anything, I remember as a single woman that if I didn’t follow the dating rules as established by age-old tradition, I would never have lost my way.
When I started dating, I happily made my first move, picked up the phone and called, and set a time and place. I’ve never been one to simply milk in my life and I’m not about to start now. I was surprised when the stock response was, ‘wow, you’re ahead’. It very rarely makes good sense.
It wasn’t long before I realized that my raw and salty sense of humor meant that I was terrible at dating. Through my work, I’ve interviewed a number of dating experts who admit that some men like to feel strong and/or relaxed during dates. God, how boring is that?
On my last first date, I had more than enough ‘rules’. I paid for dinner. I said what I liked. I instigated the next date. Reader, he did not run away in a state of fury and disgust. And our relationship has been less traditional, but all the more equal, ever since.
The Oscars are disproportionately tight
Is it just me or is the humble Hollywood ceremony taking its final leg? The Oscars are scrambling to keep TV ratings from falling, but have made some serious mistakes along the way.
First, the Academy, reportedly under pressure from the American broadcaster ABC, decided to cut eight categories. Among these are documentary short, film editing, makeup/hairstyling, original point, production design, animated short, live action short film and sound.
These will be pre-recorded and cut into the broadcast. Now, it’s been reported that Oscar nominees have been instructed not to thank their manager or agent during their acceptance speeches because the audience is deemed “boring”. Most die-hard movie buffs would disagree, noting that it’s these details that make the awards ceremonies seem special, providing insight into the ‘real’ industry.
Instead, the winners will be encouraged to talk about their “story” and “passion”. The problem with removing this industrial element of the Oscars is that you run the risk of alienating hardcore audiences who watched precisely because they loved the cinematography.
These award shows are meant to celebrate the collaborative nature of cinema; a hat that conceals for many has worked wonders. No one needs to hear about Leonardo’s life struggles or Meryl’s dedication to her craft. I can’t think of anything worse.
Start of a great new chapter
There’s no shortage of stories about how Dublin’s loveliest corners are slowly disappearing.
It makes this week’s news about the reopening of the Chapter bookstore all the more beautiful. The much-loved Dublin store has closed its doors after 40 years of business, however, this week it was announced that Kevin Neary and Michael Finucane of Gamestop have acquired the store and will reopen over the weekend. this with the same staff and manager.
Maybe rumors of Dublin’s inevitable slide have been exaggerated too much. Talk about the feel-good story we all need.
https://www.independent.ie/opinion/comment/we-demand-equality-but-a-lot-of-women-still-expect-men-to-pay-for-dinner-41429573.html We demand equality but many women still expect men to pay for dinner