I was among the women the night before, a volunteer taxi driver for five girls in town. All adult women – one married, one divorced and three completely single. It’s time for such a demographic to prompt “Why?” comment – no more. Single women are a growing reality, and always challenge the old world order.
yes, my cab was supposed to play the hit Eurythmics: “The Sisters Do It For Yourself / Stand on Two Legs and Ring the Bells”.
The 2016 census recorded 1,236,634 single women in the country – a 3 percent increase from the previous figure. The next census, which will take place on April 3, is sure to show a further increase to that single demographic.
However, even in the face of these changing statistics, the traditional celebratory events for the married cohort still dominate the social arena – engagement parties, bridal showers , grand wedding and full moon. Why doesn’t a singles celebration appear to fill this obvious and growing void?
Jo March stated in Little woman. “I am as happy as I am, and also love my freedom to not be in a hurry to give it up for any mortal man.”
Apparently, Jo’s words continue to hold true in 2022.
But the pressure to hitchhike remained, a fact that made my entire taxi crew roll their eyes toward the familiar pronouncements of married friends: What are you waiting for? Surely there is Mr Right? Do you like children? Or the worst condemnation of a bygone era: “Lovely girl – unfortunately she was never married.”
Instead of Bridget Jones useless on Saturday night, just hugging chocolate and vodka for work, single women today are healthier overall, in part due to regular exercise and social media stronger association.
Paul Dolan, professor of behavioral science and author of Happily Forever: Escape the Myths of the Perfect Life, argues that traditional signs of happiness like marriage aren’t for everyone. “If you were a man, you should probably get married; If you’re a woman, don’t bother. ”
Marriage benefits men in alleviating their predisposition to risk – while the woman who suffers it will die sooner if she has never been married.
“The healthiest and happiest population groups are women who have never been married or have had children,” he concludes. Gives a whole new meaning to the oath “in sickness and in health”, right?
Even the foretold horror of celibacy in old age is another ball to poke. Research shows that maintaining lifelong friendships and promoting active social networks proves a smart move for older adults’ health.
About the eternal quest for Mr Right, I remember watching Pride & Prejudice with two teenagers a few years ago – the time Colin Firth wore a wet shirt.
“God, why would Lizzie Bennett bother with a dry old stick like him?” commented one. I recommend a stately home and a title. “Sorry, that price is too high,” she countered. “I would rather live in a shoebox.”
Out of the kids’ mouths, huh?
